A dear brother asked me how he should approach such a person: He asked,
“You think I should inquire about the (alleged) infidelity?”
My answer:
“Yes, but it's probably best to do in a counseling session with them (the couple) and ask the wife does she believe her husband has ever been unfaithful to her. That way is best for the answer to come directly from her. If you counsel the husband alone, you can craft your question(s) in a generalized way. I.e., "How are you handling temptation?" Or, "Are any females reaching out to you?"
Carefully weigh his answers and, if you feel led to do so, probe further to get to the truth. If he "stonewalls," then cease questioning and tell him what you gather from his answers and why his "stonewalling" raises suspicions. That would be my approach. The Lord may lead you differently. Bottom line is getting at the truth.”
However, the objective is to restore love, commitment, and happiness to the marriage by (1) forgiveness,
(2) reconciliation, (3) renewing the marital covenant, (4) rebuilding what’s been torn down, and (5) refresh erotic love.
Marriages should be pleasing in God’s sight, peaceful, and pleasurable. Without these, they are unhealthy, especially for the man (Prov. 6:32; 1 Pet. 3:7).
Blessings!
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